Friday, July 1, 2011

Allen Say Details His Mother's Journey of Self-Discovery in Tea With Milk

A couple months ago, I read Grandfather’s Journey, a book Japanese-American author-illustrator Allen Say wrote about how his grandfather’s love of both Japan and America meant that no matter where he was, he was missing his other home. That sense of dual identity also pervades Tea With Milk, which is primarily about Say’s mother. The two make ideal companion books, since there is some overlap between the two stories. While that book is largely about homesickness, this one has more to do with the idea of a home revolving around other elements instead of a certain place.

Masako, known by her parents as Ma-chan and by her friends as May, is a Californian who speaks Japanese at home but generally feels more in touch with American culture. When her parents decide to move back to Japan, it turns her world upside-down. She doesn’t want to be a proper young Japanese lady who must wear a kimono all day and master the art of the tea ceremony. She doesn’t even like green tea; she much prefers the tea with milk and sugar that she drank at her friends’ houses. Her parents seem determined for her to be someone who she isn’t, and when her mother begins to consult with a matchmaker, it’s the last straw. She realizes that if she is going to take control over her life, she will need to do something drastic.

Masako’s story made me think of Disney’s Mulan, in which a young Chinese woman feels smothered by the ladylike expectations placed upon her and dreams of distinguishing herself in a way that feels true to herself. Masako does not want to embrace the life her parents have chosen for her, so she must strike out on her own, trying to decide as she does whether the same sense of belonging that she felt in America can still be achieved in Japan or whether she should make it a priority to return to California. It’s mostly a story of self-discovery, but there’s also a thread of romance that develops. The two are entwined, since it’s important for Masako to choose her own husband rather than having one forced upon her.

This is a wordier book than Grandfather’s Journey. Aside from the final page, which features an illustration on the top and text on the bottom, each left-hand page contains several paragraphs of text, while each right-hand page features a full-page watercolor painting. Instead of focusing on landscapes, Say zeroes in on Masako in each detailed, realistic illustration. In only one painting is she less than prominent, and that is so that he can convey how tiny she feels when she moves to Osaka on her own. The primary focus is on her character development, and we can read varying levels of comfort in her face depending on where she is and to what extent she is in control of the situation.

Multi-culturalism is just as integral a part of this story, however. As she makes her way in the big city, she comes to appreciate both her American and Japanese upbringing. In addition to helping her secure a good job, this varied background helps her to bond with a young man who also understands what it’s like to be a part of two different cultures. Tea with milk (and honey) becomes a metaphor for all that she wishes to preserve about her American heritage.

Say has several books based upon his family that illustrate the beauty and struggle inherent in being a part of two very different cultures. As a stand-alone or a complement to those other stories, Tea With Milk is an excellent tale of two people embracing the dichotomy and letting it help them find a new outlook and ultimately a new life.

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